Texts with Founders: Avoiding Gossip
Nimbly navigate an awkward scenario.
I recently had a founder reach out to me after someone pressured them to share private details about another person’s life. They didn’t want to share the information but didn’t want to create a tense situation.
When a person tries to get you to gossip about others, it can feel awkward to tell them it’s none of their business.
One way of refusing the person’s request for gossip in a non-confrontational way is to say the following:
“I don’t discuss people’s private matters with others. This way, if you ever wish to share something with me that you want kept between us, you know it will be.”
This response firmly rebukes the request without directly calling the person out for an inappropriate ask. It also shows them that you are a trustworthy person.
At the risk of stating the obvious, you should strongly consider whether it’s worth risking sharing any sensitive information with this person going forward. Your personal information might become future gossip for them to spread around.
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Great insights, Julian! Maintaining privacy and avoiding gossip is a crucial skill for everyone, not just founders. This reminds me how AI is used today in a number of situations where discretion and presenting the right image are important. A noteworthy example is an AI system that intelligently refines user photos. Intriguing application of tech in the digital age, isn't it? Check this out, http://dating.tiktak-studio.com, if you're curious. As you suggest, being careful about what information we share, even in images, is as important as the words we utter. Trust and discretion really are the currency of our times.